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#SELFLOVE 

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WE ARE THE CHAMPIONS!!!!

I just had to start with that. I’ve been extremely overjoyed since Saturday and that’s why. 😀

Now to why we are here………..

Self-Love

Love yourself the way you want to be loved (the way you want someone else to love you).

Love your neighbour as you love yourself (this is the greatest commandment).

An insight into the later tells us that you can only love others (your neighbour) when you love yourself. How much love you can show to your neighbour (everyone around you) is a function of how much you love yourself. You cannot give what you do not have.

With regards to the former, you cannot truly understand what it means to be loved when you do not love yourself. I’ll explain; when you do not love yourself, you cannot see what others love in you. When you do not have love for yourself, you do not know what it is for someone to give/show you love. It’s like giving a million dollars to someone who has lived all their life in a forest and has no idea what a dollar bill looks like. Now, imagine a painting you’ve studied and come to love; you’ve studied, understood and fallen in love with every brush stroke and even flaws. Imagine someone else falling in love with that same painting. You more than anyone else will be able to understand. That is exactly what it’s like to love yourself before someone else loves you.

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So, basically before you can love others, or “feel loved” you have to first love yourself. And no, loving yourself doesn’t make you selfish/self-centred. It only means you are investing in yourself, so you can have even more to invest in others and appreciate when others invest in you. Self-love is basically where love begins; after your love for GOD.

How do you go about loving yourself?

The basic step is to forgive yourself of past mistakes, let go of any pain, regret, past failures, basically anything that makes you feel undeserving or worthless. And truth is; only GOD can take all that away. Also you need to understand who you are to GOD, to understand that HE has kept you here for a reason hence you are far from worthless.

Learning to love yourself is a process that takes time, but with GOD, it takes minutes.

UNTIL NEXT TIME….. In the words of Whitney Houston: Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all (after loving GOD)….. XOXO

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WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

Posted: January 29, 2015 by myTHOUGHTStoSCREEN in RANDOM THOUGHTS, RELATIONSHIPS
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GIRLS, WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOUR PARTNER (BOYFRIEND, BOO, LOVER, HUSBAND etc) CAME TO PICK YOU UP WITH HIS FEMALE FRIEND, YOU GET TO THE CAR AND SHE’S STILL SITTING IN FRONT?

I’ve had it in mind to post this for a while now, too many things on my mind mennn. Seeing as It crossed my mind again just now, i finally decided to.

A very long time ago, someone asked me a similar question, and my reply was “it doesn’t matter jare, front seat or back seat it’s all the same, nor be the same motor” (I was still a child then sha! shallow thinker!). When I saw this picture some weeks back, my response wasn’t the same at all!!! The first thing that came to heart was “Ehn!!!! I will first slap the boyfriend” (No, I’m not violent).

Let me break it down; as kids I and my siblings used to do the “whoever gets to the car first sits in front” thing. And every single time, we’d almost end up fighting. Then my father or mother would come and say “the front seat is for the senior”. Then we’d all fall in line. Over time, I came to realise it wasn’t just about seniority, it was mainly about “RESPECT”.

I applied the same logic here when analysing this issue. It’s all about respect. If my partner comes to pick me up with “his female friend”, and “his female friend” is still in the front seat when I get there;

First, I’ll take it as a very big sign of disrespect. Then again, maybe it skipped his mind.

Secondly, I’ll gladly without saying a word open the front door and wait for “his female friend” to step out and move to the back. One of two things will happen; she’ll either gently step out immediately, or look at my partner first.

Thirdly, if she steps out, fine, if she looks at my partner first, I’ll gladly close the door, go over to the driver’s seat ask the man in question to step out and I’ll kindly take over the wheels. If he doesn’t, I’m sha not entering that car that day!!   O pa ri *in my yoruba accent* (No! I don’t like drama, I’m not a drama queen)

I meannnn like my parents taught me “the senior stays in front”. So, Driver’s seat o, Front passengers’ seat o, all na front.

My point is, it’s less about ‘the seat’ and more about RESPECT.

Girls/Females what would you do in this situation, Men/Males I want your opinions too, Hermaphrodites you aren’t left out either. Let me know what you think in the comment section.

Then again, ladies, what if it was a guy in the front seat?

P.S: After trying several Red velvet cake recipes, I finally got it right today (maybe that’s why i even found the inner strength to post). Anddd i decided to try the “oreo cookies and buttercream icing”!!! While I was baking, voices in my head kept yelling “Ame you’ll get fatter, eventually burst and die”… But who cares??? I’ll start myself on a weight loss diet once I finish the cake. That’s if i don’t find another set of recipes to obsess over.

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Hello beautiful people, THANK GOD IT’S FRIDAY!!!!! I’m sha turning up on my bed with my laptop and a few movies to kick-start my weekend. Happy New Year again, I trust you all enjoyed the holidays. Well, it’s back to real life for me, the house is empty again, work has resumed and yes I totally hate that the holidays are over. Good thing about these first few days of the year is how mild Lagos traffic is, I believe most people are still in their villages and most schools are still on break. Ermmm any possibility you guys want to remain in your villages??? I wouldn’t hate Lagos so much if traffic was always like this sha.

To the issue at hand! There’s this popular belief that “what people say or think about you shouldn’t matter to you” in as much as this train of thought is quite right, I believe it shouldn’t just end there. In a message I listened to sometime ago, the preacher made reference to this; he said he ordered a bottle of coke in a restaurant once, and after he was served, he turned the content of the bottle into a glass and asked the waiter to return the bottle. While he was drinking he looked around him and saw that every other person was drinking wine. He then asked the waiter to bring back the bottle. Why? According to him, he had always preached against drinking alcohol, and anyone passing by him would assume he was drinking wine and not coke. First because everyone around was drinking wine and also because when he look at the coke in the glass himself, it looked like something other than coke. He went on to say that he didn’t want to give people around any reason to have anything negative to say concerning him, not that their saying anything would affect his standing with God (how God sees him) which is the only view that matters to him but whether he liked it or not, he had an image to uphold. His analysis made me reason this belief in another light.

Back in school Ada and I asked a friend of ours (a guy) to come with us into the female hostel. He refused and said he had never entered a female hostel (that was his fourth or fifth year in school). We asked why, and he said “quite a lot of people know me, so I wouldn’t want to give them reasons to have anything negative to say”. I didn’t put much thought into what he said then, it all came back when I started this post.

Yes, what people say shouldn’t bother you, but that should only be the case if you’ve not given them reasons to have anything negative to say. Like it or not your image (how people see you) is important and should be protected. Whether we like it or not the so-called “people” we are not supposed to put into consideration when going about our lives, are likely the same “people” who would probably have a say concerning us tomorrow. In putting this into consideration, you should also be careful not to over-burden your pretty head with what people think. Because, no matter how perfect you live your life, some people witches and wizards will always have something negative to say. Also, “people” shouldn’t be the only factor to consider when carrying out actions; there is also a YOU factor to be considered. We just need to find a balance. Bottom line, in not caring about what people say or think about you, you have a responsibility to make sure you don’t give them a reason to have anything negative to say/think.

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Whatever is worth doing…..

Posted: September 25, 2014 by myTHOUGHTStoSCREEN in LIFE LESSONS
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Hello beautiful people, in a bid to kill off my lazy side I decided to challenge myself a little, a post every Thursday; that’s the deal I made. Now, I’m just going to start from the beginning. I’ve always had an issue with people doing things half way or not doing things right ESPECIALLY when they have the ability to. Don’t get me wrong I’m soooo not a perfectionist, I’m very far from it.

Let’s put it this way, it’s only RATIONAL that if you “know” you do not have the capacity to carry out a task right or see a task through to the end, then there’s no need taking it on in the first place. Like, starting construction on a road and leaving it half way. As a result, seriously inconveniencing and posing serious danger to road users (which is what prompted this post). Construction has been on for not less than 24 months on a road that leads to my humble abode. On my way home this fateful day, the bus driver decided to drop me off before my actual stop because of the hellish traffic. Well, unknowingly I walked right into quicksand. To cut the long story short, I got home without shoes that day. This goes without saying, I’m holding the Lagos state governor responsible and thus he owes me a pair of shoes!

Whatever they say is worth doing at all is worth doing well/right. I was in SS3 when my form teacher used this line on me and honestly I felt very “one kind“. I was to clean the class windows that day, I had been skipping it for weeks and luckily there were others to do it. Unfortunately for me, that day I was on my own, I wiped the windows haphazardly and left it. Basically because my heart wasn’t in it and also because the first period was about to start. Well on my form teacher’s orders, I had to re-wipe the windows during the first period (I kinda felt embarrassed). In any case I took that incident to heart and I cleaned every window and swept any portion of the class I was given with all my heart, soul, blood, sweat and spirit after that. What I learnt was simple, there’s no need doing something at all if you aren’t going to do it right, and if you can do it right, do it right the first time.

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It is quite simple, if you “know” you can’t do it right, then don’t do it at all. If you can’t swim through a river to the end, there’s no need jumping into the river in the first place. If you can’t drive don’t bother getting behind the wheels. If you can’t care for more than two kids with your present income, go for family planning after the second kid. If you can’t stay faithful to your partner, remain single. If you can’t rule a local government area, state or country properly, kindly do not contest for the position. If you know you plan to play when you get into the university, please do not waste your parent’s money, learn a trade.

Also if you can do it right, then the responsibility is on you to do it right. Having this at the back of our minds before we undertake any tasks will make the world a better place (for me to rule; when I’m ready to start ruling) and will hopefully keep me from losing any more shoes.

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UNTIL NEXT WEEK: BE GOOD BE TRUE AND GIVE TO THOSE WHO LACK. XOXO